For Better For Worse – When to stick to your vows and when not to

The wife of Dr Edwin Ewin, the guy who was found guilty of poisoning the drinks of his pregnant lover to induce an abortion, is sticking by him!

You want to know what’s more? Dr Edwin Ewin’s work colleagues didn’t know he was even married AND his wife said she was fully aware that in the past, he has had several long term mistresses.

His pregnant lover, Bella Prowse, was also unaware that he was married whilst they were dating and became suspious of when he’s desire for her to have an abortion got a bit cranky and yellow powered residue was floating on the top of a cup of tea he had bought for her .

The wife, Lowri Phylip, said his lover was a silly woman and was nonetheless, as Dolly Parton put it in her classic love song, standing by her man.

Wo! – commitment to the very end eh. This woman wasn’t messing when she said, ‘I do’!

She said she felt contempt towards the judicial system for choosing to believe this woman over and above her ‘respectable husband Doctor’  - Dr Poison had claimed, that it was his lover who tried to poison herself to stitch him up.

I think Mrs Lowi is a tad delusional don’t you?

Still, who am I to judge.  If I was as insecure as Mrs Lowi and had lived through her life experiences, who’s to say that I wouldn’t be saying the same nonsense myself. There’s many of us who’ve lived in denial in the past, albeit to a more or lesser degree.  Not a problem I think as long as we acknowledge that no matter how much we want to bury the truth to the deep recesses of our mind,  it will resurface.  Thus, the longer we take to face it, the bigger the emotional explosion when do.

I recall another situation like this when I was living in Islington.  My neighbour’s husband confessed to abusing their kids.  However, the wife had convinced herself that it possibly wasn’t true as he was having a break down at the time and didn’t really know what he was saying- hence like Mrs Lowi and our wee Dolly’s love song, she was standing by her man.

Getting your Groove Back Tip:

Well I’m gob smacked with this one just as I was with my neighbour all them years back.  Talk about taking your vows to the bitter end.  With all said and done however, I am only left with sad thoughts on this situation and those are this…

Firstly, it makes me wonder what lengths women will go to just to be able to say they are married.

Secondly and most importantly it makes me remember that as woman, mum, carer and the like, we really have to learn to love ourselves first.  That’s groove.

We have to be brave and trust.

It is said, we should face the truth and the truth will  set us free.

If we walk, everything will be okay.

Things will work out.

They always do.

Its the universal law.

Infidelity – Would you Leave Your Husband if he had an Affair?

It has been reported that over a third of men on dating sites are married.  It appears to  be the new swish, less complicated route to infidelity.

One of my Mummy mates said she wouldn’t be surprised if her husband was one of them  because  for one, she’s bored shitless of their sex life and two,  he’s always on the Internet.

She says she has no intentions of leaving him however, because he’s rich and not prepared to give up her lifestyle.  Therefore, if he was one of the new unfaithful gits taking advantage of a single women’s quest in finding a decent bloke, she was quite happy for him to do so. At least she honest.

I was seeing a bloke once who I met on line.  I swear he was married.  He lived in Sweden and came to London often on business.  Things just didn’t add up and the penny dropped when I myself had to go to Sweden on business and was fed a million and one excuses why he couldn’t meet up with me.

So kicked he was kicked to the kerb shortly thereafter.

In any case, the question is, would you leave your hubby if he had an affair?

Getting Your Groove Back Tip?

Okay, I’m gonna get stick for this one.

Depending on the circumstances, I’d say No – you shouldn’t leave!

In recent years,  I’ve decided to take my head out of the fairy tale books and stop comparing relationships to the Litte House on the Prairie and the Waltons and something more akin to the Rocky Horror Show.

Shit happens.

Therefore, if it was a one off stupid mad moment, I just don’t think it’s worth breaking up the family home over.

However,  on discovering that the bastard had planned and calculated meeting a woman woman on-line and living some full on double family life somewhere, with kids, then I ‘d kick the git to the kerb like I did with old Mr Sweden.